a cross to bear

a cross (somebody has) to bear

(British & Australian) also a cross (somebody has) to carry (American & Australian)

an unpleasant situation or responsibility that you must accept because you cannot change it

Usage notes: In the past, criminals were made to carry crosses as a form of punishment.

Someone has to look after mother and because I live the closest it's a cross I have to bear.

Name	Pronounced	Usage
Vitaly	vee-TAH-lee (Russian)	Russian, Ukrainian
Idir	-	Northern African, Berber
Dennis	DEN-is (English), DE-nis (German), DEN-nis (Dutch)	English, German, Dutch
Iwan	EE-wan (Welsh), EE-vahn (Polish)	Welsh, Polish
Margarida	mar-ga-REE-də (Portuguese)	Portuguese, Galician, Catalan, Occitan
Enid	-	Welsh, Welsh Mythology, Arthurian Romance