learn the hard way



learn (something) the hard way

 and find (something) out the hard way
to learn something by experience, especially by an unpleasant experience. (As opposed to learning in school, from reading, etc.) She learned how to make investments the hard way. I wish I didn't have to learn things the hard way. I found out the hard way that it's difficult to work and go to school at the same time.
See also: hard, learn, way

Common Names:

NameGenderPronouncedUsage
Berengar-Ancient Germanic
Moiseymah-ee-SYAYRussian
Edytae-DI-tahPolish
FerdiFER-deeGerman, Dutch
FranklynFRANGK-linEnglish
Nethaneel-Biblical